Our bodies are sacred

I’m writing this mostly because I CAN. NOT. SLEEP.

I accidentally took a nap from 7-11 pm, so clearly I’ll be up until Christmas Eve 🙄🤦‍♀️

I’m hoping my spoonful of raw almond butter, manuka honey, and Himalayan sea salt will kick in any minute- but for now I’m just as nocturnal as my two guinea pigs on the other side of the wall.

Anyways, back to the point of this entry: I’ve had a few conversations this week about the programming surrounding men and women, and how, as a society, we’ve wandered pretty far from the original blueprint.

Because of all the conditioning, it’s nearly impossible to truly SEE the other person.

There’s so much room for misunderstanding on both sides, and without proper self-awareness, communication, and willingness to challenge our own biases, even the smartest and most well-meaning of people are capable of hurting others- and themselves.

One of the conversations was about navigating physical/sexual relationships despite differing backgrounds and levels of experience.

Some of the questions that came up are as follows:

• What does safety look like- and how do we create that within ourselves and the relationship?
• What do specific words or phrases mean to each person?
• Is there a way to ensure I’m not misunderstood or misinterpreted?

The answers to these questions will vary greatly from person to person- and even within the same person as time passes.

However, a few things that may be helpful to keep in mind are listed below:

• Our bodies are sacred. They are the vessels for our souls. There is a brain and heart attached. Our bodies are certainly not all that we are, but they are the entry point to so much of what and who we are. As our consciousness expands, it will become nearly impossible to engage in mindless and/or casual sexual activity.
• We are every age we’ve ever been. No one likes to think about this, but the truth is, when we interact with people (especially in a physical/sexual way) there may be a little boy or little girl somewhere in there that experienced unsafe touch- or touch that was very confusing to them. While it’s not our responsibility to reparent someone else’s inner child, or to know their traumas and their body better than they do, I do think it’s important to leave a little room for things like this to come up. What this looks like will be different for each person.
• We don’t always know what’s in there. This is another inconvenient truth. We don’t know what our reaction will be until we’re actually in the situation. Something that was fine last week may feel triggering today. This is very annoying. This is another reason why our embodied presence and attunement matter. In fact, they matter so much that I just decided to expound on this in a separate entry.

If reading this was hard or unsettling, then good. It can serve as a catalyst to do some self exploration- and maybe even engage in some hard conversations with the people you care about.

These conversations will inevitably be difficult and awkward at times. Have them anyway.

This is the only way we will heal ourselves and our world- and create a healthier one for generations to come.

Stay tuned for more on this topic 🙏✨️

Photo: Blue Mountain Beach, FL November 2022