This has been one of the hardest lessons of my entire life.
Over the past few years, I’ve learned to gauge potential for change by assessing how committed the person is to their protector parts and harmful behavior.
If they’re still viewing the behaviors as protective and themselves as someone who needs protecting (victim consciousness), they will most likely not give them up.
This indicates low potential for positive change.
I’ve also noticed that how people define themselves really matters. If they’ve incorporated a belief that they’re inherently bad or wrong into their self-concept, then on some level, they’ll need to prove that to you and themselves.
Life will also mirror that back to them in both subtle and not so subtle ways.
Example: If someone tells me they’re a terrible person, it’s not up to me to convince them they aren’t 🤦♀️
Even if I see a wounded inner child who is crying out for help or a soul that is so bright, shiny, and inherently innocent.
Their wounded inner child doesn’t need anything from me. It needs it from them.
We can’t re-parent someone else’s inner child, especially when their adult self and all of it’s ego parts aren’t on board 🙄
As far as seeing people’s souls: yes, they are all shiny and beautiful; but unfortunately, most have acquired at least some level of residue from our time here, and there’s only so much we can do when people are content with their level of covering.
Anatomy of an Awakening 