The way forward

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Just kidding. As much as I would love to make her responsible for this, it’s really all me 🤦‍♀️

I’m hopping on for a second to report that I have seen and experienced the ultimate weirdness in the last few weeks regarding men and women relating to.. ..🥁 roll. ..younger versions of themselves 🫠

There’s currently a lot of social media content focused on restoring masculine/feminine polarity and how these energies express themselves and interact with one another.

There are even groups being formed and programs created to teach these things and provide the younger generations with rites of passage such as camping and hunting trips for boys and red/pink tent ceremonies for young women.

While all of this is so awesome and probably much needed, there are a few places I think we may be missing the mark:

Two seperate men that dont know each other recently told me they wanted to start either a commune or a boys punishment camp (paraphrase) where the young men will either do manual labor or be working out the majority of the time.

While I know that teenage boys benefit from structure and physical work and require different types of support than young women do, I can’t help but think the men who shared this with me are still treating their inner pre-teen as harshly as a caregiver or coach did growing up (there was a little more to the convo than I have room for here).

It feels like they’re viewing young men as wrong, bad, or dangerous in some way and want to beat them into submission. Until they do their shadow work and realize they didn’t deserve to be “beaten” and that masculinity isn’t “bad” (including their own) they’re running the risk of perpetuating what was done to them.

As far as the women, all of these ceremonies, retreats, and groups are great, but the quickest way to dramatically level up the feminine energy on this planet and to forever alter the trajectory for the younger generations, is for us to love ourselves, our lives, and our bodies.

Until we’re able to access self 💖, the chances are very high we’ll inflict what is unfortunately known as the “Mother wound” on young women. 😭

This looks like letting jealousy interfere with our role as wayshowers and encouragers and to instead shame and sabotage them during the times they need us the most.

This leaves younger women lost, unsupported, and without any guidance, and renders the older women obsolete and irrelevant since the younger ones will be forced to sever the connection as a way of survival, and thus widen the divide for generations to come. We can blame “the patriarchy” all day long, and there’s a lot of truth to that, but we’ve also done it to ourselves.

Other ways to help heal this dynamic is for men to not talk poorly about women to their daughters (or sons, or at all) or to be condescending to the women in their lives. Men can help guard and protect the mother/daughter bond, as opposed to interfering with it out of their own ego needs.

Mothers can help by not smothering their sons and/or looking to them to emotionally caretake for unmet needs and to allow young men to differentiate from them when the time comes.

That is all for now. ..we can do this 💖🙏