Gender wars? 🤔😭

Speaking of red flags. ..

Well, I’ll get to that in a min 😅

I took these pictures yesterday when the ocean was the most active I’ve ever seen it!

It definitely wasn’t the time for a swim 🌊🚫

Anyway, a week or two ago, I wrote a chapter in the book on misogyny within the mental health system. This led me to also acknowledge the ways in which men can be harmed in therapeutic settings and even learning a new word: misandry.

. ..then THAT led me to seeing the ways in which the system creates & perpetuates the divide between men and women because it operates out of separation consciousness (“us vrs them,” minimal awareness of interconnectivity between parts).

Since then, I’ve been thinking about where the adversarial energy began – particularly the idea that saying yes to you is saying no to me?

How did we find ourselves on opposing sides, and more importantly, is there even a dignified way forward from THAT place, or could it be time to lay our weapons down?

There’s so much conditioning and programming around man/woman relating that it feels like our true selves are no longer in the driver’s seat.

Instead of heart to heart (soul level) connections, it seems the best we can do is match up our ego parts & find another fragmented person to compliment the masked self we refuse to come out from behind.

The way I see it, a fulfilling relationship is one where both people are capable of and willing to navigate challenges without making the other person the enemy

Yes, there will be triggers, but they will arise organically & unintentionally, instead of what my mom used to call “slashing someone to their shoe tops,” or throwing grenades at each other, then running the other way 😞🤦‍♀️

I used the term “productive triggers,” in a recent conversation to describe the idea that relational conflicts can be a catalyst for the growth of each person AND result in increased connectivity between the two, as opposed to constantly defending against immature and unconscious shadow projections (so exhausting and unproductive).

I’ve found that with ⬆️ as the operating environment, the “lesson” is usually to leave it 🙄🤷‍♀️

Anyways, these are just some thoughts 🤓

There may be a 2nd book somewhere in here. ..comment 👎👍

Photo: Santa Rosa Beach, FL April 2024