Bye

I don’t know who needs to hear this, but some relationships need to be left.

Like, that’s the whole point.

We all need to complete the developmental stage of differentiation, so we’re given opportunities to differentiate away from people- especially if the dynamic mirrors our childhood experiences.

As children, we couldn’t leave. We had to do mental gymnastics to convert our situation into something we could exist in as a way of survival.

We often end up doing the same thing in our adult lives- putting up with disrespect & mistreatment, continually investing in relationships with people who are careless and reckless, or who will just never have the capacity to truly see us or meet us in the ways that we need.

We operate on a belief that leaving is not an option, so we create scenarios where we’re entangled with & bound to these people (jobs, living situations, relationships).

I predict that as we become more connected to our internal knowing, there will be a mass exodus out of these situations simply because they make. no. F-ing. sense.

We’re all involved in BS that we would NEVER agree to as we are now- or where the fine print was never stated, and while it may be a pain in the ass to get out of these arrangements, I’m of the belief that it’s worth it.

The only ways these things ever worked to begin with:

• We didn’t know any better.

• Our levels of distress tolerance were way too high (had too large of a capacity to tolerate discomfort).

• We were operating on a belief that we were incapable or inadequate and that we needed the thing- viewing it as our privilege to participate.

Well, time’s up. We’re awake. We’re in our bodies. We’re SEEing and feeling for maybe the first time, and this isn’t working.

That alone is grounds for a departure.

We do not require 10 years of research based charts, graphs, data, and statistics on why something isn’t working.

We don’t even need proof of malicious intent.

Read that again.

2nd post ccoming soon regarding questions around whether or not the person is aware of what they’re doing, is it intentional, is it trauma, and can they change

Photo: Captain Leonard State Park Destin, FL May 2024