Taking your power back

Personal power is not something that anyone else gives you. Nor do you aquire it outside of yourself. It is a birthright that you were granted along with your breath when you incarnated here.

However, experiencing adversity can make you feel as if your power was taken- or even that you gave it away. Both scenarios are really hard to reconcile.

Because of this you may find your relationship to yourself has been damaged- or even hijacked altogether.

This can happen in several ways, but the 3 that come to mind are as follows:

• You had to abandon yourself to stay safe (physically or emotionally).

• You have a history of emotional or physical neglect, making it hard to spend time alone.

• Your reality was denied (gaslighting), so it’s hard to trust yourself or connect to your intuition.

All three of these can occur in developmental and single incident trauma, as well as situations you may not consider traumatic.

Because these experiences usually cause a split (logically you know one thing, but your nervous system tells different story), repairing the relationship with “self” is often a neccessary step towards healing.

So, if you do feel like you lost your power, you may be wondering what are some ways to reclaim it? 🤔

I recommend setting aside time each day for a connection (or reconnection) practice. Be intentional about it.

This is how you show up for yourself.

Protect the time like you would an appointment with a practitioner or date with a friend. This sends the message to yourself that you’re worth the time and effort.

Here are a few suggestions:

• Journaling

• Guided meditation

• Intentional or spontaneous movement to release energy (stretching, dance, jumping/shaking)

• Breathwork (alot of options here). ..Wim Hoff Method, Holotropic, circular breath, box breathing, etc practitioners also offer sessions online

• Spending time in nature

This can be done in whatever way feels right for you; the implementation will look different for everyone. I was reminded recently that no one else gets a say in what this process looks like, and thought that was worth mentioning.

No matter what happened, this is a way to reclaim your SELF-ness or personhood (are these real words??), and ultimately take your power back.

My personal favorite right now is laying in front of my infrared light and doing deep breathing or stretching. From there I usually end up journaling anywhere from 3 to 87 pages (jk, kind of).

It looks different depending on how I feel, and have found it helpful to stay flexible with it to avoid the procrastination and resistance that often arises the second I make it a thing.

I’d love to hear about your daily practices or morning routines you’ve found beneficial.

I will post a few resources in the comment’s section that may be helpful.

❤🙏

Photo: Black Mountain, NC November 2020