Who is this even for?

Quick reminder:

Healing work is for the person that’s doing it.

There are a million reasons people choose to embark upon a healing journey, but I’ve found those who do it for themselves- so they can have a better life and stop contributing to their own suffering- are usually the ones that make lasting change.

This doesn’t mean there can’t be external motivating factors such as becoming a better partner or parent, managing work stress to increase office morale and productivity, or wanting to be viewed as successful in the community.

However, if those are the primary reasons, we may want to consider what’s underneath that, and how sustainable it will actually be long term.

Physical, mental, and emotional healing can result in feeling safer in our bodies, experiencing closeness with others, and removing barriers to accessing the higher vibrational emotional states- such as joy, awe, and gratitude.

Some questions to consider:

• Am I really trying to heal, or just to FIX myself so I’ll be more acceptable to others?

• Is this at the suggestion of someone else, so that they can avoid doing their own personal work?

• Is this process being driven by fear and shame, or by love and compassion?

• Am I asking something of myself that I would never even recommend (much less expect) from others?

• Is there a percentage of that I can accept, as opposed to attempting to change everything?

• Am I integrating disowned parts of myself, or trying to further banish them?

Asking these questions may be beneficial at the beginning of the process, and periodically throughout as a check-in. There are no right or wrong answers.

I’ll end with a phrase that came to me in a dream a few nights ago:

“It’s you against you. All that matters is that you’re on your own side.” 🙏

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Photo: Marshall, NC October 2021