Arguing with ourselves

Okay, but have you ever seen anything more beautiful, though? 😄

Shelly is the sweetest; and Puffy is. …very puffy 🙃

Anyways, I’ve been thinking lately about the unconscious ways we reconcile cognitive dissonance and upgrade our belief systems.

I say often if we’re at war within ourselves, we’ll find a war in the external world (or start one), as the outside mirrors the inside.

This could come by way of actual events or just the way we view the people and events around us.

Today, I want to go a little deeper into the mechanism of action for this phenomenon. I believe we call in people who personify the beliefs that we’re carrying and/or trying to work through.

It’s almost like we say “Here, hold this for me so I can SEE it,” but then we forgot we gave it to them and that it was ours to begin with and we may actually fight and argue with THEM- when we’re really fighting with ourselves the whole time.

We just needed someone to represent it for us so we could take a side, play devil’s advocate, then shadowbox with it for a while before we (hopefully) resolve it and lay our weapons down.

Two things:
1. Whether or not they actually believe the
idea is mostly irrelevant since we usually
just see what we want or need to see
anyways.

2. It can also be ideas and beliefs that our
inner child is still holding, even if our adult
self does not consciously subscribe to them.

That’s why the belief is being mirrored
back to us- because it’s time to clear it.

It’s no longer needed and has become maladaptive, so it’s coming up and out.
However, so often we make it all about the person and usually either get entangled with
them or push them away altogether, then miss the lesson.

Two examples in my own life are as follows:

A man I was seeing last year seemed to hold certain views on women. He would occasionally say them out loud, but regardless, it came through in interactions and discussions on other topics.

While I would never actually admit to holding these beliefs, I accepted the invitation to examine my own internalized misogyny, and found that (despite personal work I’d done on this over the years), I still contained within me the residue of what I thought was scrubbed clean 🤦‍♀️

In arguing with him, I was actually arguing with myself and FOR myself. ..how’s that for the 3 for one deal!? 😄

I was able to thank my Higher Self for attracting this situation to me so I could clear those beliefs. Notice I didn’t say thank him for making the comments or arguing.

More on internalized misogyny in a later entry. ..

The second example is I hardly ever come in contact with people with certain ideologies that I’ve chosen not to specify here. ..

The point being, I’m not in relationship to those ideas. I have no need for them to come into my field. I’ve reached neutrality with them, meaning I’m content with where I stand, as opposed to having internal conflicts.

I’m not subscribing to those certain perspectives, but I’m not shunning them either. They simply are, and I’m letting them be.

More to come on the ways life is a hologram and how we create our own reality 💫