Listen to her

Fireside chats. ..with myself.  ..in July. ..in the Carolinas. ..and no 🔥 besides the one in my ❤️.

In the spring of 22, I updated my definition of healthy masculinity to include men validating women’s intuition even when it doesn’t portray them in the best of light. ..only if it’s actually true, of course.

In March of that year, I shared with a friend that he’d shown up in a few of my dreams and that I’d received a quick “picture message” about him a few months prior.

It was just a snapshot of him in a distressing situation, but it was concerning nonetheless.

Since I try to have good boundaries, I was just going to leave it alone, but when I had the dreams, I felt compelled  to at least check in with him.

I asked him if the information I received in the dreams and flash vision was true, and he confirmed that it was.

He was my hero in that moment.

After what has most likely been lifetimes of SEEing through the programs, masks, personas, and facades – and being gaslit by those who were unwilling to take ownership of what was being revealed – to say his response was healing and redemptive is an understatement.

Men, if you have a woman in your life who cares about you enough to have the tough conversations, who believes in your ability to bring your vision to life, and who is willing to support you along the way-

Listen to her.

Not to say women are always right – and certainly we can have blindspots and/or wounding that can cloud our perception – but we also see and feel a lot in our bodies before it makes it to the conscious mind.

That means we can’t always explain how we know what we know, but WE KNOW.

Personal share:

A man I dated briefly a few years ago got arrested 6 months after we broke up. Id predicted that would happen and tried to convince him to get help.

We’d been on an off for a few months before I ended it because I could tell he was calling in a really hard path, and I didn’t want to get struck by lightning standing next to him.

I could see that another energy was stepping in and acting on his behalf when he was triggered and that he didn’t have agency over his mind or body when that happened.

We personified that energy by calling it “non-(his name)” because I could tell it wasn’t his true self.

Example: say his name was Mark, we named the other energy Non-Mark.

At times, I felt Non-Mark was overtaking Mark and that he wasn’t holding his own. It was a helpless feeling for both of us, and I would’ve done anything to stop it. Ultimately, I had to leave because I didn’t feel safe around him.

I haven’t shared about this a lot, but I may start writing more about my experiences over the years with the things I’ve seen and how I navigated them.

I know I’m not the only woman to go through this – not even close – so I write to help the others feel less alone. I guess it could also help men to hear these things from a woman’s perspective 🤷‍♀️

Also, I’m aware these issues are not specific to gender, but I’m writing in first person from a heterosexual cisgender woman’s body.

I share because it helps me to find meaning in my life and to know that my journey is purposeful.

Thank you for being here 🙏