Creating sexual energy around a person, place, or thing is our mind’s way of inviting us to look at it.
It’s saying “there’s something for you to see here.”
What better way to draw attention to an aspect of ourselves than to make it extremely energetically charged.
Things show up in the sexual arena as our psyche’s way of processing it.
This is especially true for things that were traumatic for us. This concept is called eroticized wounds.
I am not sure who came up with that term, but it is genius!
What about when we have sexual attraction for things that we cannot act out without infringing upon others rights, crossing their boundaries, and/or going to jail – or things we do not even want to act out, and would not actually do even if we were given the chance?
I would say there’s a pretty prevalent societal belief that we have to act on all of our thoughts and sexual impulses…perhaps some people even feel entitled to the object of their desire- even if it’s another person’s body.
This is actually not true.
We do not have to play out thought that crosses our mind, or act on every bodily sensation – nor should we 🙄
. ..and we are certainly not entitled to other people’s bodies (or any other part of them).
This is where our consciousness steps in.
Our consciousness receives all the information available (body sensations, interpersonal dynamics, rules of engagement within the operating environment, etc), examines it within the larger context and with influence from higher level functions such as morals, values, beliefs, spiritual frameworks, etc THEN makes a decision on how to proceed.
The problem is that so many people don’t even realize that they are not their thoughts, their physical urges, etc.
If they dont realize that there’s a little separation there, then there wont won’t be.
They will actually be a slave to their thoughts and body sensations.
To bring this full circle and give a concrete, real life example: if I were still practicing as a mental health therapist and a client shared that they want to stop being attracted to a certain type of person, then I would help them explore what their mind and body are trying to communicate or work through by assigning sexual energy to that group of people.
Let’s use the example of someone being attracted to minors.
Why would the mind and body generate sexual energy around children- even when the person’s adult self and conscious mind knows it’s inappropriate and does not want to have these thoughts or feelings?
There is a high likelihood, that they were introduced to sexual energy as a child, whether through overt sexual abuse (physical contact), or to being exposed to sexual material (magazines, videos), or were in close proximity to people engaging in sexual activity.
In my opinion, THAT is the place to start when trying to resolve sexual attraction that does not seem to be originating from the person’s “true self” (this is a much larger topic than I’m trying to cover here, like I said, it’s a starting place).
Usually once you heal the underlying trauma that the mind and body are trying to resolve, then the sexual energy around the thing will dissipate.
That is all for now 🙏
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