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I’m reading a book called Holding Sacred Space, and have been thinking more about my interactions with others- both personal and professional. I really try to be present and honor other peoples’ experiences. I listen, ask questions, give feedback if appropriate, etc, but I recently noticed myself doing something that may be unintentionally hurtful. IContinue reading “The capacity to hold it all”

I was asked this question last night during a phone conversation with a friend, and I found myself at a loss for words (a rare occurrence lol). My own experience was so bizzare and unreplicatable that it may not be helpful at all. The brief explanation of what happened is as follows: The combination ofContinue reading “How to SEE ourselves?”

Where to go from here? As discussed in the last entry, becoming aware of our “stuff” is super hard. It can feel like we’ve got bullet holes in our chest and have been bleeding out for years, but are just now looking down. Our ego may tell us we are the worst, and people aroundContinue reading “Hard questions Part 4”

For all of us While we’re on the topic of hard questions, there are a few more that may be helpful right about now: • Is my personality comprised solely of protective parts, coping mechanisms, and survival strategies? • Are all my relationships trauma bonds? • Is my whole body scar tissue? It’s natural toContinue reading “Hard questions Part 3”

For helping professionals In the fall of 2020 I reached out to a therapist that offered Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy to inquire if he was taking new clients. He said he was not, but when he found out I was a therapist, invited me to sign up for an upcoming IFS training. Well, $1,200Continue reading “Hard questions Part 2”

My current process It’s that time of year when I take a look at my life and get really honest about the direction I’m headed. Do I actually want to get to where I’m going? In 2017 while in an Active Duty military position, I had the extremely uncomfortable realization that the “escalator” of myContinue reading “The hard questions Part 1”

I experienced inconsistent communication from someone a few weeks ago and it was very triggering. I’ll never know if it was intentional, but it was frustrating nonetheless. Instead of creating a victim story, I took ownership by exploring why this was suddenly coming into my field. In other words: “Am I being incongruent or unclearContinue reading “Personal ownership and clear communication”

I didn’t know what else to call this entry, as it’s not an actual entry! It’s just a few beautiful pictures that I couldn’t not share, but I also couldn’t attach them to a written entry- as I feel the opportunity has passed and it no longer feels true for me. Time is moving quicklyContinue reading “Catch up pictures”

I self-abandoned yesterday and did something I did not want to do just to avoid making other people uncomfortable. Kept the external peace, but started my own internal battle. “People-pleased” to my own detriment. Put my needs on the back burner to avoid “causing a scene.” Sound familiar? I feel pretty confident in saying I’mContinue reading “Frozen moment”

If this entry were an episode of Friends, it would be called “The one where we overcome.” Since this is part 3, I’d like to jump right in with why I felt called to write about this to begin with, and to highlight what we have going for us when facing seemingly insurmountable odds. “InContinue reading “Evil part 3. ..the reckoning”